Tip #1: Be Still
For many people, it’s hard to sit alone in a quiet room and contemplate. They become uncomfortable and agitated. Still, this is an important step to get to know yourself better. Be brave in the face of your imperfections. As soon as you embrace the good with the bad, you can start discovering your true self. It all starts when you take the time to sit still and listen to yourself. Think of it as mindfulness meditation, where you focus completely on the present moment.
You can read more on mindfulness in these Embracing Change articles.

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Tip #2: Ask the Right Questions
Too many times, we knock ourselves down through negative self-talk. Instead, talk to yourself as you would a friend. Be kind and show empathy. The best way to do that is by asking self-discovery questions so you can get to know yourself better.
Write the answers on post-its and hang them up next to your bed or bathroom mirror. You can also jot the answers down in a journal. In fact, experts say journals are one of the most effective tools of self-awareness.
Here are some important questions you can ask yourself today:
- What are my core values?
- Who's my biggest role model? Why?
- What makes me feel safe? Or who?
- What are my short-term and long-term goals?
Each one of us is here for a reason. Some of us do certain things better than others. That’s the natural order of things. Knowing what you’re good at is necessary on the journey of finding who you really are. Focusing on your strengths boosts self-confidence and increases your drive to achieve more. Only then, will you be able to make room for better, more productive things in your life.
Let’s not forget that it’s just as important to figure out what you’re not good at. Allow yourself to try different things. Then, by trial and error, you’ll know exactly what you’re good at and what you should steer clear of. Interestingly enough, your strengths will almost always align with your core values. Together, they can help you manage your life path, both at home and at work.
Tip #4: Discover Your Passion
Now that you know what you’re good at, it’s time to hone in on the things that excite you and give your life meaning. This can be one thing or twenty—the point is to follow through.
Having that drive gives you purpose and strength. You savor each moment and push yourself to achieve new goals.
This positive energy you exude when you’re doing something you’re passionate about is vital. It allows you to want to be better and do more. That can only come when you truly enjoy what you’re doing.

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Tip #5: Determine Your Sense of Style
Your fashion sense is unique to you. Even if you haven't realized it, your style is self-expression. It gives people a quick peek into who you are, as well as your likes and interests. By figuring out your style, you allow yourself to be self-assured and poised in your special way.
Start by going through your wardrobe. Keep the things you believe are a genuine reflection of who you are. Then, get rid of anything that doesn’t make you feel beautiful and confident. For inspiration, check out fashion styles online and in magazines. Then, find one that shows off your true self.
This is one form of self-care that will work wonders for your self-esteem. Best of all, you won’t just feel good, you’ll also look amazing! Who doesn’t want that?!
I hope you found these five tips to get to know yourself better helpful. Figuring out who you are as an individual has many advantages. The most significant is that it puts things in perspective. It allows you to feel comfortable in your own skin. As a result, you’re able to focus more on your strengths and be more accepting of your weaknesses. Socrates also said, “Be as you wish to seem.” When you know what you want out of life, the only thing that can hold you back is your imagination. So, be bold and dream big!
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Angel, you’ve done it again! Another pithy, well-written article with tips people can really use, to get where they may not even realize they want to go. Good stuff!
Hey! I’m in Virginia too! Love it here. You bring up some amazing tips for self care. Just need to implement them. LOL