Was it shock? No, we all knew that mom was dying. The only way I can describe that pain is to liken it to a black hole. For the next 25 years, I dwelled in that negative space, fueled by pain and anger. That space is no longer for me, but it is part of my healing journey and story. I had to let the pain go.
Let the pain go. How do we go about doing that? Pain, whether it is physical, mental, or emotional, can seem like a massive weight on our shoulders that is too heavy to be released.
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- Yes, it hurts.
- Yes, it sucks.
- Yes, you wish it could all just go away!
Taking pain in might be hard, and it might unleash a lot of emotions. However, once you have accepted it, you can let it go.
Counter The Pain With Joy
One of the easiest ways to let go of pain is to forget that it exists. It might be hard, but try to do something fun, even for 10 minutes. Listen to a song, call up a friend, eat a good meal. Do whatever you feel like doing, and maybe even try to change your environment.
Self-medicate with joy and the things that bring you that emotion. It might be hard to reduce the weight of pain on your shoulders, but you don’t need to worry about taking it all out in one go. Instead, you just need to do one thing, one small thing, and pretty soon you’ll build a habit. You’ll also get more and more joy out of the activities as well, until that’s all you feel.
Talk To Someone
Sometimes pain thrives whenever we find ourselves alone against it. Talking about your pain with a trusted family member, friend, or even a professional therapist can help you process it and give you someone to turn to whenever you really need to talk.
Having a support network of friends can help you deal with your pain, and they can also eventually help you let it go once you feel better. There’s nothing like a connection with people who care for you whenever you want to focus on your own health. Pretty soon, pain will become a distant memory.
Select Carefully Which Memories You Keep Close to Heart
Whenever you focus on a painful memory, the pain associated with it often comes back to haunt you. So instead of fighting the memory or the circumstances, you need to make sure that you select a different memory that makes you smile or laugh. If you had mental pain while at a certain location, maybe you can go to that location with a friend and try to make a fresh memory.
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I’m sorry you lost your Mom at such a young age. What a journey that took you on, but here you are helping others. I think this is how God uses pain in our lives, as a means to come
alongside others in their pain to offer help and hope.
Thank you for sharing.
Blessings,
Debi
Thank you Debi.
Losing a parent at any age is so very hard, and when you are younger, even more so.. And so very true that the memories we recall have an impact…
Good advice. Even though we know, we may not be ready. But there is no other choice, if we want to be healed!